If you have ever been pregnant then you know this feeling (and if not you are very lucky).
You just found out you were pregnant or just announced that you were and you except everyone to be so happy with you but…. no. Some people instead meet your excitement with comments like:
“You know you will never sleep again.”
“Kiss your social life good bye.”
“Your life if over.” etc.
I hope you didn’t have to hear negative comments but if you did or you are hearing them I want you to know something….
Motherhood is AMAZING!
It’s unlike anything you have ever done and there is nothing that can prepare you for the love that you will feel for this little tiny human that YOU made.
I have never understood why people feel the need to rain on new parent’s parades. Parenthood has been so much more than I could have ever fathomed. You are constantly learning. Whether you are learning things about yourself, your partner or your child it’s a learning experience. Everyday is something new you have never experienced before!
Of Course It Is Hard
Parenthood, like anything else is life is hard. Of course there are things about it that can suck from time to time. But let’s be honest if you have ever been around a child you knew going into this parent thing, it wasn’t always going to be sunshine and rainbows.
You don’t need to hear how much lack of sleep can suck, you need to hear that baby cuddles at 2 am make up for the lack of sleep. You don’t need to hear “your social life is over.” You need to hear that taking your little to new places is so amazingly fun. There are so many negative things I could sit here and type for you. Details of those days that have been so so hard as a new mom. But has a new mom you need SUPPORT. You need ENCOURAGEMENT. You need to know YOU ARE GOING TO BE AMAZING!
If you are a new mom or mom to be know this, it. is. amazing. This is the best adventure you will ever go on. You will never be the same again. Once you see that little human staring back at you, you will know how amazing it is. Everything you do now you will do with your baby in mind. You will WANT to put them first (most of the time). You will want the best for them and you will be fight tooth and nail to make sure they get it. You might not get 8 hours of sleep, or have freshly washed hair everyday or be able to run out whenever you want but know this, it’s worth everything you are sacrificing.
And if you are already a mom, be kind! Remember your own excitement when you were pregnant for the first time. Tell those new moms you run into about all the joy they will feel, all the love and pure excitement that comes from being a parent.
And if you can’t….. then don’t say anything at all. Don’t steal their joy.
What would you like new moms to know that no one told you about when you were pregnant?