Words, how powerful they are. As an educator by heart (and degree lol) I studied the foundation of language. When it starts to form, how to teach it and how important words are to learning any subject. As a parent I’ve learned how important words are to children in a whole new way. Words are how we can either build up or tear down our children. Words are how we can show our tiny humans encouragement about how wonderful they are or hinder it. So, how can we use our words for all the good they have to offer you ask… affirmations.
Affirmations | using them as a parent
Our children hang on our every word and long for our approval.
When my son is playing I often times catch him doing something and then turning to look at my husband or I. He wants to know we see him, that we are proud or approve. Using words with our children seems so simple but it’s easy to get caught up, isn’t it? I know, I know kids are hard work, they are difficult and some days it takes all we have to have nice words at all to say. Am I right? All of that can cause us to be repetitive or on auto pilot with our words and responses to our children.
These are affirmations but it’s easy to get stuck saying blanket statements.
When I talk to my toddler I try to speak to him like I do everyone. Even though he’s only 21 months old he is like a sponge. Did you know that in a growth spurt between 16-23 months a child can learn up to 2 NEW WORDS A DAY??!! That’s crazy! I want to make sure that I am using all the words I can with him. Make it a point to use different words, describing words and words that are tailored to your child. Then, encourage your child with all those wonderful words.
Let’s say your child just built a tower out of blocks. You could say, “Good job Honey,” which there is nothing wrong with. But what if you said “Wow, I bet you tried hard to build that!” ?
Variety is the spice of life
Using descriptive language is a great way to up your affirmation game. Here are a few of my favorite affirmations to use with my kids.
Keep trying, you got this.
My son is very strong willed so this is one that I use on a daily basis. I am acknowledging his determination and telling him he’s doing well. I could say good job and that would be good, but by using this statement I am speaking directly to what he is doing and also using words like trying. Children tend learn verbs first so using them in your affirmations is important.
This is huge in my house. I am a manner stickler. I want to raise my children to be polite (which I assume you do as well). So how do we do that? Be examples. If I we want our children to be polite and use words like please and thank you, then we need to use them. Thank you is a HUGE affirmation. You are acknowledging whatever it is your child has done and praising them.
I try to use thank you with my sons whenever I can. I want them to know they are appreciated and that their actions are important. Even something as small as offering me a bite of his dinner (that I don’t necessarily want) is cause for a thank you. I want him to know that his action to share is appreciated.
You are so important
Sometimes affirmations are conversation starters. When you are cuddling or playing on the floor with your babies make it a point to voice all those feelings you have. When you look at your baby and think “you’re so wonderful,” or “You are the most important thing in my life,” tell them! Those mom and dad moments where you feel all the feels about how fast time is going those are great moments to express how important they are.
It takes two seconds to say. They may not understand or even look at you when you say it haha but they heard it. That phrase, those words they becomes part of what they think of themselves.
Being intentional with our children
Just like anything other goal you have, you have to start with being intentional. Start by listening to how you speak to your children on a regular basis.
What if we used our words to be intentional and specific about our children and their actions? Not only would we be building our children’s confidence, showing them their worth, building their vocabulary but we would be using our words to give our children that inner voice they will hear for the rest of their lives.
I would love to hear some of your favorite affirmations that you use with your tiny humans, let me know below!
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Since 2019 is still shiny and new, I have been thinking of thing I would like to improve in my day to day life. If you follow me on Instagram then you know that one of my goals is to give myself more credit when I deserve it. But I also wanted to make the goal of using my time intentionally. I want a better schedule for getting things done around the house so that I can enjoy time with my family more often.
My Stay at Home Mom Schedule
My goal was to write a schedule for things that I need to get done day to day and stick with it. Often times I find myself running around at 9pm doing laundry, dishes, or stressing that I didn’t vacuum before the kids went to bed. So, I decided to write a schedule to follow and be intentional with the time that I have during the day to get things around the house done.
This is how I wrote mine out. Taking only one or two big task a day and then of course my daily check list.
To get started think of all the things around the house you would like to get done. Make a list of very general ideas first:
- vacuum x3 week
- clean living room
- clean kitchen
- laundry (you can break this down further if you’d like: whites, darks , etc.)
- strip beds
- clean bathroom
- tiddy up
- make the bed(s)
- write grocery lists
- grocery shop
- take trash out
After you have listed bigger items to get done, think of the days of the week.
When do you have the most time, is there a day you want to have free, are there days where you work and can’t complete anything? Once you have narrowed down that you can start to write your outline.
Each day make a Daily to do and a Day specific chore to complete.
What do you need to do everyday?
My Daily to do list looked like this:
- Make beds
- Do 1 load of laundry
- Do dishes
- Tiddy living room x2 daily
Every single day these four things need to be done.
Then look back at your list and pick a day to complete one or two general things E.g.
Monday: bathroom and vacuum
Tuesday: strip beds and clean living room
so on and so forth until all the general item on your list are checked off. Next, look at each day and get more specific with your list.
Look at each chore and write exactly what you would like to accomplish for each item.
- clean toilet
- wipe counter
- sweep floor
- clean tub
- clean mirror
- change air freshener
- living room
Make your schedule
This is what my schedule looks like. I have my daily list at the top and each day has my big to do’s. I set aside a block of time in my day to accomplish my list for that day. This is what will help me get things done and be intentional with each project. Do what works for you!
Instead of walking into a room and forgetting why I went in there (any one else do what or is it just me lol) I can look at this schedule and know what I need to accomplish that day. Then, Sunday is a day where i can rest. Or, if life happens on one of the other days I can do that list on Sunday.
Hopefully this will help you make a schedule of your own and make 2019 a productive and intentional year.
Let me know below if you made one of your own and how it is working!!
Finding ways to include a 1.5 years old in the holidays has been challenging. So many traditions he just isn’t old enough for or doesn’t understand like Santa, Elf on the shelf, baking cookies, etc. but I wanted to find something fun to do with him.
That’s when I decided to DIY our wrapping paper with his help. Every year we wrap our presents in butcher paper and I find new fun ways to personalize it. Some years I tie twine around each present, decorate each present with each persons name or use sharpies to draw right on the paper. So, to include Killian this year I’m having him DIY it for me.
🖍A roll of brown butcher paper
🖍Crayons (I used the jumbo Crayola crayons for our little guy)
🖍A creative tiny human
Find an open space. Unroll a large area of your paper. Set your tiny human on the paper with crayons and let them go to town. As they fill up an area roll the paper from that end to create a scroll. This way you can keep the decorated side from the unused side.
Days of Fun
The nice thing is this will give you and your toddler days of fun! It will probably will take a few sessions for your toddler to color on the whole roll of paper. Once they do color on all the paper just use like normal wrapping paper.
Family and friends will love the personalized touch, your toddler will be a huge part of the gift giving tradition and it will definitely be unique.
What traditions do you have that are toddler friendly?