When you are expecting a tiny human you need stuff. Now I am a big believer in living with just stuff I need but even with the bare minimum registering for your shower can be over whelming to say the least. The amount of stuff you can register for is INSANE! If I could do it all over again I would change a few things on my registry. Let’s start with items I wish I would’ve register for and didn’t.
Whether they were wants or needs these are the things I wish would’ve ended up on my registry because we ended up running out to get them while we were still in the crazy newborn stage.
#1 K’Tan Baby Carrier
I can’t say enough but how much I love this baby carrier. I wish I would have had this the moment I came home from the hospital. This carrier required NO tying you just cross it over your body and pull your arms through each hole. It’s so easy! It took me 2 tries to be able to do it on my own. It’s made of super soft material and you can just fold it up and stick it in your diaper bag. If you are looking to register for a baby carrier I suggest this one.
Before I was a mom I would’ve never thought about a humidifier or that I baby would need one.. which is probably why it didn’t make it on to my registry. But if you are a newbie parent, a little secret you are going to need one of these. I live in an older home and and we needed one of these once it got cold. Our little one would wake up sounding like Darth Vader every morning. Which lead to the decision to buy a humidifier. Make sure you have one on your registry. We like this cute one we have. It’s simple to use and made a world of difference in our sons breathing.
#3 Sleeper Sacks
Another item that I had NEVER heard of until I was in the hospital the first night with our son. They informed me he had to wear a ‘sleep sack.’ Little did I know was a new mama that babies and blankets are a BIG no-no (what I’ll admit it, I didn’t know). So when we left the hospital we invested in some sleeper sacks that had wings so we could safely swaddle him. But once he was done with swaddling we had to invest in more sleeper sacks so moral of the story this is another item I wish I would’ve asked for.
#4 Mesh crib bumper
When I made my registry I didn’t think very far beyond the newborn stage (again I’ll admit all my flaws to y’all). I pictured a tiny newborn when I thought of things I needed. But once these little ones can roll over and/or crawl they can get their limbs stuck all up in those crib slates. So we had to go out and buy one of these mesh crib bumpers. They are really cheap and I don’t worry about him falling asleep next to it because it is breathable. I wish we would’ve had this from the beginning so he wouldn’t have got his limbs stuck.
#5 Baby Bullet Blender!
If you have read any of my post before this one then you know how much I love this set. When I was registering I thought “How silly is that set, it’s just a blender.” Just. a. blender. yeah right! This thing has been amazing! It comes with everything you need to make your own baby food. My favorite part is the freezing trays are in the same shape of the food containers so I just pop a frozen food in a jar and go. Hindsight, this would’ve at the top of the registry list!
Now that you know some things I wish I would’ve had, I am going to share things I THOUGHT I needed or things I thought I needed a lot of and didn’t.
Not all of these things are useless or weren’t helpful but some were.
#1 A Moby Wrap
Now, I am not saying this is a bad baby carrier it just wasn’t the one for me. Out of all the items on my registry I was most excited about this one. But it was really complicated to learn how to wear it. I wanted to baby wear so things would be easier but I could never get the hang of this thing. I know people who loves these but if I would’ve known about the K’Tan I would’ve picked that one to begin with.
#2 Baby Bath
I know a lot of people who really love these but my baby cried basically all the time so when he needed a bath he got a shower with one of us or a bath with us. We never used our baby bath. When he was really little it was too hard to keep him sitting up and by the time he could hold his head up he wanted to splash so we would put him in the sink. I only put this on our registry because I thought I had to. Where else would I bathe my child? I learned, almost everywhere except in the baby bath.
Don’t get me wrong baby towels are awesome and so soft but babies don’t bathe that often. I ended up with at least 15 baby towels. My son only uses one at a time and towels take up a lot of space. If you are like me and are short on space register for only what you will actual use. I think 3 towels and a couple of wash cloths would’ve have sufficed. This also would’ve save me a whole lot of space in his closet.
#4 Burp Cloths
I don’t even know how I ended up with so many. I probably have a least 40! My son had acid reflux and we still never used that many. I think almost everyone got us some and we went home from the hospital with MORE.
40 of anything is just too much, again I would have so much room for more useful things if I had not gotten so many burp cloths.
#5 Baby Mittens
Although SUPER cute and in theory a really awesome idea, just nope. I registered for 3 packs of these things and like socks they just get lost some how. Also, almost all the newborn clothes I got had the sleeves that rolled down over his hands. I’m not saying these were pointless but they were definitely something I did not use often enough to have 3 packs of. So maybe this one wasn’t a regret but if I had the chance again I would nix them.
What were some items you just HAD to have and some that were not so useful after all?? I would love to see what you have to say. Comment below some of yours 🙂
Lots of Love,
How I Survived a Super Cranky Baby
This is how I survived a super cranky baby and so can you.
When my son was born my husband and I were over the moon. We had struggled to get pregnant and had watched everyone else have babies for the last 16 months and it was finally our turn. I had been around babies my entire life so I had some idea of what newborn life looked like…. or so I thought.
My son was born in early May and those first couple of weeks were AMAZING!! My husband got a full 2 weeks off of work and we were running like a well oiled machine. What one of us lacked the other made up for and vice versa. It was magical.
and then my son turned 5 weeks old….
So it began
It started with a few hours a day. My little one would cry for a few hours straight each evening and everyone told me “he’s being a baby, this is what you signed up for.” So, a few more weeks went by and it just got progressively worse. By the time he was about 3 months old and he was screaming the whole day. 8-12 hours out of the days he was crying and/or screaming. I knew something was wrong so I took him to the doctor and after a month of back and forth we ended up at Children’s with a diagnoses of acid reflux AND colic…. He is now a happy (well most of the time) 9 month old but getting through those months were HARD. I thought I would never make it through but there were a few things that helped us cope and also seemed to help him. This is how we survived a super cranky baby and you can too!
Here are some of the things that helped us for a wide scope of reasons and not just for acid reflux.
Asking for help
I know this seems pretty basic but as a new mom a lot of us can feel like we need to do it all. As if asking for help would some how make us less amazing.. but it doesn’t! I promise it DOESN’T! When my husband was at work I was in over my head. It started with my husband telling me to go hang out with my friends in the evenings (he works in the evenings). I never wanted to though because WHO wants to listen to a baby cry all night, I didn’t and so I felt like I was inconveniencing anyone I was around.
First, my in-laws invited me over one evening for dinner and helped me out for a few hours. They would rock him and pace with him until I needed to nurse and even though I was still with him and could hear him crying or screaming being around other people helped me so much. I felt like I could breath knowing that others heard him and I wasn’t going crazy. Not to mention being able to put him down or hand him off gave me just a few moments to sit and relax.
(My son and his Pops on our Mondays out)
It was so helpful that I made this part of my weekly schedule. Mondays were the hardest because Alex was at home to help out all weekend to help out. When Monday rolled around and I was all alone with the baby again it seemed so much more difficult. So every Monday I would go to my in-laws house for dinner and to sit for a few hours. They got to visit with their grand baby, we got out of the house and I got a little time to breath. It was (and still is) a win, win, win. After a few Mondays I started to add more scheduled visits to my week to see other people. Asking for help or even working in a few dinners with friends and family was by far the biggest life saver with a super cranky baby.
As a stay at home mom (and I’m sure for working mamas too!) feeling like the walls are closing in was a feeling I got a lot. By that I mean, you can only be in the same rooms for so many days before you feel like they are getting smaller. As a first time mom who had gone to work Monday through Friday, staying home everyday was a HUGE culture shock to say the least!! My baby was born in May so the weather was normally warm. My husband was home in the mornings so that’s when we would walk. Every morning we would either find a new park or just walk around the block. Babies are so curious and on the days where I got my son out and walked with him he seemed to be a little less cranky.
I would load him up in his baby carrier (I love this carrier for newborns and smaller babies and this one for older babies ) so he was close to me and on nice days we would walk, just for a short time like 30-60 mins. Not only was he getting out of the house and exploring new things to see and hear but I was getting out too! Babies pick up on your emotions so when I felt stressed and over whelmed he picked up on that. So getting out of the house would help my mood and in return help him as well. Again, a win, win. Bonus I was getting a small workout in each day too!
(A few photos from our walks)
Now this tip may seem a little nontraditional to some but I was trying everything at this point.
One evening my son was going on hour 8 or 9 of screaming when my husband got home from work baby and I were both in tears . I was so overwhelmed and I felt helpless. My husband jumped in the shower and we sat in the bathroom so I could talk to him while I cried. The screaming was getting worse and all the sudden my husband said take his clothes off and throw him in here with me…. what!? Babies can’t have showers! Well, mine did! I stripped him down and my husband held him in the shower.
IT WORKED! For the first time in over 8 hours the crying stopped. I felt so relieved. This small miracle lead to other water related things that worked. When he was crying sometimes I would fill up the bathroom sink and let him kick his feet in the water, give him a bath, take bath with him or just wipe him down with a warm rag. All of these things helped… sometimes.
Anything I could do to distract him I would try. One night after he woke up we turned the vacuum on. It was loud and a constant sound. It immediately calm him down. We quickly realized we couldn’t run our vacuum all night so we had to search out other options. The first thing we found was a wonderful YouTube video of a vacuum running for 8 hours!! It was a life saver. We would throw our phone on charge and turn the video on and we all three would fall asleep to it. This worked for a little while but when we went to transition him into his own bed we had to find another source for sound.
We used this awesome little white noise machine.
It’s small but works wonders! Not only does it make multiple sounds it has pictures it projects on the ceiling.
Yeah, Yeah I know it’s corny… But seriously.. mamas, LOVE. Love your little baby and love on them. What I mean is even when the baby is crying and has been for hours try and step back or step away and think about how happy that little baby makes you. Love on your little one. Keep him/her close. In those first couple of months especially all they have ever known is the sound of your heart beat and your scent so hold them close. You’re not going to spoil them they NEED you. Hold them, lay them on your chest, just love on them.
For me I had to walk away or think about it before bed. Just the simple fact that I had spent so many nights praying for that little bugger and now he was here. Whether he screamed all day (and night) was irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. In those silent moments I would think of the good, that one little smile I might have gotten that day or the sleepy snuggles… I would think about how this time will pass. That cranky baby won’t be little forever. So..while they are little take time to love them even when they are at their worst. It’s not easy but nothing about being the parent of a tiny human is.
(bath time one night when he had been screaming for hours)