Spending Time at Home
I don’t know about you but as a stay at home mom being at home can be daunting. Being home, 7 days a week can be not only lonely but can make the days drag on. Things become the same old same old and you become bored. So, you over compensate, right? You schedule to go out to eat, spend time with family, go to the zoo, and the list goes on and on! You avoid spending time at home in hopes to feel less contained and monotonous.
So where is the medium? How do you enjoy slowing down without going crazy? How do you make the decision to intentionally slow down and spend time at home.
The Art of Slowing Down
We (my family and I) somehow got caught up in rushing around (to no where), always having plans and over scheduling A LOT. I always hear the song I’m in a Hurry (and I Don’t Know Why) by Alabama when I am feeling this way.. is that just me? Okay any who back to the point. We were trying to not feel bored and ended up feeling something worse.
I noticed a change while we were over scheduled. My family felt disconnected. We were “doing,” all these things how could we feel so disconnected… Although fun: the zoo, family visits and going here and there, they were draining us. It was/is time-consuming. It’s time in the car, loading and unloading. It’s chasing Killian in environments that aren’t baby proofed. It was taking its toll.
How to slow down
I would say like any good thing, slowing down takes practice and being intentional! My husband and I are pretty open when it comes to how we are feeling. So when we both looked at each other after a few MONTHS of running ourselves ragged we knew something had to change.
Step 1- be intentional with one block of time. Getting started takes one small commitment. What can you commit to one day, one weekend, one afternoon? Start there.
So, we started small with something manageable, one weekend. That’s it. That’s how it got started, one small weekend. We agreed that the majority of that weekend we needed to be at home. We had only scheduled to have one small family lunch and we stuck to that but that was it. The rest of the time we had to be home.
Now you have decided one, that your family and you need a slow down. Going and going has somehow brought you to this point and you have agreed to spend time at home, slowing down with each other.
Great! Now the easy part- do it! Just be at home.
Our weekend at home was absolutely not Instagram grid worthy. We didn’t sit in matching outfits, cooking in our perfect kitchen laughing all weekend. We just spent time in our home with each other.
It sounds so simple and maybe not impressive but it made such an impact on us. Staying at home and tinkering around the house was awesome. We were amazed at how:
- long our weekend felt versus being out and about.
- much stuff we got done without even trying.
- many meals we ate at home, together, and at the table.
- relaxed we felt, even while getting things done that were over due.
Making the choice to spend time at home just that one weekend helped reset the dynamic in our family for the week to come.
But staying at home is boring…
So, I know some of you are thinking this right now as you read this post. Spending time at home doesn’t have to be boring. Like I said any good thing takes practice and being intentional! Just agreeing to start is a huge step. If a whole weekend feels like too much, especially being a SAHM then pick a smaller time frame. Maybe, just one Saturday you agree to spend time in your home.
Trust me, not having plans can lead to some of the best memories BUT if you need plans here are a few staying home activity ideas that will help you slow down, connect and still be together as a family.
These are just a few activities that could help you reconnect as a family in your home.
Make a plan to schedule unscheduled time
Once you commit to spending time at home schedule to do it again. Be intentional! Commit to whatever you feel like you can handle and to what you think your family needs.
We started with one weekend and have talked about making a three-day commitment. My husband works in the evenings so for us staying home in the mornings can be hard because it’s when we get our ‘running around done.’
This is also what seems to drain us and make us feel like we haven’t connected. For us three days a week at home is what we need to feel like we are balanced. Find your balance and try to stick with it.
So, let’s review
- Make the decision to slow down.
- Talk about what that needs to look like.
- Commit to what works for your family.
- Make a plan to not make plans!
- Be intentional practice slowing down during those committed chunks of time.
LASTLY! Leave me a comment and let me know how you’re doing with it!
I would love to hear all about your ‘boring days at home and how they are going!!