Since 2019 is still shiny and new, I have been thinking of thing I would like to improve in my day to day life. If you follow me on Instagram then you know that one of my goals is to give myself more credit when I deserve it. But I also wanted to make the goal of using my time intentionally. I want a better schedule for getting things done around the house so that I can enjoy time with my family more often.
My Stay at Home Mom Schedule
My goal was to write a schedule for things that I need to get done day to day and stick with it. Often times I find myself running around at 9pm doing laundry, dishes, or stressing that I didn’t vacuum before the kids went to bed. So, I decided to write a schedule to follow and be intentional with the time that I have during the day to get things around the house done.
This is how I wrote mine out. Taking only one or two big task a day and then of course my daily check list.
To get started think of all the things around the house you would like to get done. Make a list of very general ideas first:
- vacuum x3 week
- clean living room
- clean kitchen
- laundry (you can break this down further if you’d like: whites, darks , etc.)
- strip beds
- clean bathroom
- tiddy up
- make the bed(s)
- write grocery lists
- grocery shop
- take trash out
After you have listed bigger items to get done, think of the days of the week.
When do you have the most time, is there a day you want to have free, are there days where you work and can’t complete anything? Once you have narrowed down that you can start to write your outline.
Each day make a Daily to do and a Day specific chore to complete.
What do you need to do everyday?
My Daily to do list looked like this:
- Make beds
- Do 1 load of laundry
- Do dishes
- Tiddy living room x2 daily
Every single day these four things need to be done.
Then look back at your list and pick a day to complete one or two general things E.g.
Monday: bathroom and vacuum
Tuesday: strip beds and clean living room
so on and so forth until all the general item on your list are checked off. Next, look at each day and get more specific with your list.
Look at each chore and write exactly what you would like to accomplish for each item.
- clean toilet
- wipe counter
- sweep floor
- clean tub
- clean mirror
- change air freshener
- living room
Make your schedule
This is what my schedule looks like. I have my daily list at the top and each day has my big to do’s. I set aside a block of time in my day to accomplish my list for that day. This is what will help me get things done and be intentional with each project. Do what works for you!
Instead of walking into a room and forgetting why I went in there (any one else do what or is it just me lol) I can look at this schedule and know what I need to accomplish that day. Then, Sunday is a day where i can rest. Or, if life happens on one of the other days I can do that list on Sunday.
Hopefully this will help you make a schedule of your own and make 2019 a productive and intentional year.
Let me know below if you made one of your own and how it is working!!
When I took a test to see if I was pregnant I had my suspicions. We had to use fertility treatments so there is always that doubt. But there were a few clues that I was getting the answer we were waiting on.
My suspicion started one night while I was watching How to Train a Dragon 2 (by myself I might add). One of the small dragons threw up, which lead me to throw up. Anyone who knows me knows that I would rather feel crumby all day then to throw up and I threw up over a cartoon throwing up. So we tested the next day and we were pregnant with #2! We were so excited especially me because my first pregnancy was AMAZING! I had some food aversion but no sickness, not really any pains and basically a simple pregnancy and delivery.
Lesson 1 as a second time mom, no two pregnancies are the same apparently. I have been sick almost everyday for 11 weeks. I have gone through some terrible days and on top of being sick I still have my son who needs me each day at home.
So how have I survived up to this point? Lots of trial and error!!! Here is the list of foods, drinks and tricks that have helped me get to week 11 somewhat in tact.
So mama if you are feeling crumby try these simply tricks.
Whether you have some nausea or you are sick everyday like me you need to be prepared for feeling your worst! Especially, if you have a little one(s) at home counting on you.
Items that I keep near are plastic grocery bags, mints, napkins and a small snack. At home I have a little area in almost all the rooms just in case I feel sick. I keep mints under my bathroom sink, in the kitchen and in my bedside table.
When I am on the go I keep mints, plastic bags and a snack in my car and in my diaper bag. This way I am never in a place where I’m unprepared. Morning sickness doesn’t care if you on the highway or in the middle of the grocery store it’s better to be prepared then not.
Finding foods to eat
There have been days where I can’t keep anything down at all! And for the first 9 weeks I couldn’t stand the taste of water (which I am normally drink all day). So, it took so trial and error to find foods and drinks that helped me get the nutrients and energy I needed.
These are some foods that helped me through the days where everything looked gross or made me want to run to the bathroom.
- Popsicles: I found this awesome brand called Outshine they have real fruit and no sugar added. I would eat these to get some calories and to stay hydrated. While trying to find food to eat I read that popsicles are better than saltines because they have more nutrients. I assume there is some truth to that but either way I felt better eating frozen fruit that bland crackers.
- Chickenbroth: On bad days it’s important to keep your sodium replenished. Broth was easy to get down, it had flavor and I was getting some liquid in my system as well. You can buy broth already made. I opted to use bullion cubes this way I could control the taste and amount of sodium I was getting.
- Bananas: Some days I couldn’t eat these but on days I could I tried to eat at least one. They are packed full of nutrients and are bland enough to look appetizing.
- Triscuits: These crackers come in so many flavors but they are also 100% whole grain wheat made with simple ingredients. When I needed a snack with a crunch and some saltiness there were my go to.
Also, because water was a no go for a while I had to look for other ways to stay hydrated. I found a few options that helped until I could keep water down (which thank God I can now)
- Spindriftsparklingwater: These waters are made with real fruits. They have a few different flavors and the fact that they are carbonated helped settle my stomach on those really rough days. My favorite flavor was blackberry. Yum!
- Ginger ale: This is one you have probably heard before but if you are a fan of ginger ale it really does help with the nausea. This is by far my favorite one.
- I did get to the point where I didn’t want ginger ale so I searched for other ginger flavored drinks. Which lead me to find some awesome ginger teas.
- Ginger Teas: I am lucky enough to have an awesome coffee shop in my town that is a small business with the best teas. So here I found a ginger peach tea that has been a life saver on days where I need a little caffeine and something to settle my morning sickness. If you are every in Cincinnati definitely check out Coffee Emporium! But if you are too far to come to Cincinnati you can always check out your own local tea shop or grocery store there are so many ginger options that are awesome.
This may seem like a contradiction but I mean it, move as much as you can. Of course there are days where I am too weak to get up and workout or do anything. But on the days where you have even a little energy get up and move your body.
I have been doing these awesome 20 minute workouts from Michelle Marie Fit Pregnancy Program.
The days where I can move even a little I tend to feel a better afterwards. When you are laying on the couch because you don’t feel well it can take a toll on your body, which is already going through so much. It’s better to move those muscles when you have the energy trust me.
I aim to get my workout in four times a week and with Fit Mom To Be’s AWESOME workouts I can break a sweat in as little as 15 mins. If you want to check out these workouts she has a great 14 Day Free Trial workout program you can try!!
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Heading into the second Trimester
As week 12 is quickly approaching I can only hope and pray that the nausea will ease up soon. If you are going through morning sickness and nausea too, I feel for you and I hope these tips help give you some relief.
What has worked for you when it comes to having morning sickness? I would love to hear about it in the comments.
Lots of Love,
How I Survived a Super Cranky Baby
This is how I survived a super cranky baby and so can you.
When my son was born my husband and I were over the moon. We had struggled to get pregnant and had watched everyone else have babies for the last 16 months and it was finally our turn. I had been around babies my entire life so I had some idea of what newborn life looked like…. or so I thought.
My son was born in early May and those first couple of weeks were AMAZING!! My husband got a full 2 weeks off of work and we were running like a well oiled machine. What one of us lacked the other made up for and vice versa. It was magical.
and then my son turned 5 weeks old….
So it began
It started with a few hours a day. My little one would cry for a few hours straight each evening and everyone told me “he’s being a baby, this is what you signed up for.” So, a few more weeks went by and it just got progressively worse. By the time he was about 3 months old and he was screaming the whole day. 8-12 hours out of the days he was crying and/or screaming. I knew something was wrong so I took him to the doctor and after a month of back and forth we ended up at Children’s with a diagnoses of acid reflux AND colic…. He is now a happy (well most of the time) 9 month old but getting through those months were HARD. I thought I would never make it through but there were a few things that helped us cope and also seemed to help him. This is how we survived a super cranky baby and you can too!
Here are some of the things that helped us for a wide scope of reasons and not just for acid reflux.
Asking for help
I know this seems pretty basic but as a new mom a lot of us can feel like we need to do it all. As if asking for help would some how make us less amazing.. but it doesn’t! I promise it DOESN’T! When my husband was at work I was in over my head. It started with my husband telling me to go hang out with my friends in the evenings (he works in the evenings). I never wanted to though because WHO wants to listen to a baby cry all night, I didn’t and so I felt like I was inconveniencing anyone I was around.
First, my in-laws invited me over one evening for dinner and helped me out for a few hours. They would rock him and pace with him until I needed to nurse and even though I was still with him and could hear him crying or screaming being around other people helped me so much. I felt like I could breath knowing that others heard him and I wasn’t going crazy. Not to mention being able to put him down or hand him off gave me just a few moments to sit and relax.
(My son and his Pops on our Mondays out)
It was so helpful that I made this part of my weekly schedule. Mondays were the hardest because Alex was at home to help out all weekend to help out. When Monday rolled around and I was all alone with the baby again it seemed so much more difficult. So every Monday I would go to my in-laws house for dinner and to sit for a few hours. They got to visit with their grand baby, we got out of the house and I got a little time to breath. It was (and still is) a win, win, win. After a few Mondays I started to add more scheduled visits to my week to see other people. Asking for help or even working in a few dinners with friends and family was by far the biggest life saver with a super cranky baby.
As a stay at home mom (and I’m sure for working mamas too!) feeling like the walls are closing in was a feeling I got a lot. By that I mean, you can only be in the same rooms for so many days before you feel like they are getting smaller. As a first time mom who had gone to work Monday through Friday, staying home everyday was a HUGE culture shock to say the least!! My baby was born in May so the weather was normally warm. My husband was home in the mornings so that’s when we would walk. Every morning we would either find a new park or just walk around the block. Babies are so curious and on the days where I got my son out and walked with him he seemed to be a little less cranky.
I would load him up in his baby carrier (I love this carrier for newborns and smaller babies and this one for older babies ) so he was close to me and on nice days we would walk, just for a short time like 30-60 mins. Not only was he getting out of the house and exploring new things to see and hear but I was getting out too! Babies pick up on your emotions so when I felt stressed and over whelmed he picked up on that. So getting out of the house would help my mood and in return help him as well. Again, a win, win. Bonus I was getting a small workout in each day too!
(A few photos from our walks)
Now this tip may seem a little nontraditional to some but I was trying everything at this point.
One evening my son was going on hour 8 or 9 of screaming when my husband got home from work baby and I were both in tears . I was so overwhelmed and I felt helpless. My husband jumped in the shower and we sat in the bathroom so I could talk to him while I cried. The screaming was getting worse and all the sudden my husband said take his clothes off and throw him in here with me…. what!? Babies can’t have showers! Well, mine did! I stripped him down and my husband held him in the shower.
IT WORKED! For the first time in over 8 hours the crying stopped. I felt so relieved. This small miracle lead to other water related things that worked. When he was crying sometimes I would fill up the bathroom sink and let him kick his feet in the water, give him a bath, take bath with him or just wipe him down with a warm rag. All of these things helped… sometimes.
Anything I could do to distract him I would try. One night after he woke up we turned the vacuum on. It was loud and a constant sound. It immediately calm him down. We quickly realized we couldn’t run our vacuum all night so we had to search out other options. The first thing we found was a wonderful YouTube video of a vacuum running for 8 hours!! It was a life saver. We would throw our phone on charge and turn the video on and we all three would fall asleep to it. This worked for a little while but when we went to transition him into his own bed we had to find another source for sound.
We used this awesome little white noise machine.
It’s small but works wonders! Not only does it make multiple sounds it has pictures it projects on the ceiling.
Yeah, Yeah I know it’s corny… But seriously.. mamas, LOVE. Love your little baby and love on them. What I mean is even when the baby is crying and has been for hours try and step back or step away and think about how happy that little baby makes you. Love on your little one. Keep him/her close. In those first couple of months especially all they have ever known is the sound of your heart beat and your scent so hold them close. You’re not going to spoil them they NEED you. Hold them, lay them on your chest, just love on them.
For me I had to walk away or think about it before bed. Just the simple fact that I had spent so many nights praying for that little bugger and now he was here. Whether he screamed all day (and night) was irrelevant in the grand scheme of things. In those silent moments I would think of the good, that one little smile I might have gotten that day or the sleepy snuggles… I would think about how this time will pass. That cranky baby won’t be little forever. So..while they are little take time to love them even when they are at their worst. It’s not easy but nothing about being the parent of a tiny human is.
(bath time one night when he had been screaming for hours)