The One Ring to Rule Motherhood

Lately, I’ve felt transparent. At this point in my motherhood I feel like Frodo Baggins with ‘The Ring.’ Hopefully, you understand my nerdy reference… if not, ‘The Ring,’ is a magical ring from Lord of The Rings that the main character uses to become invisible to those around him.  Hence, the metaphor that motherhood is ‘The Ring.’  We become invisible when we are in motherhood mode.. So all the time.

Any who, back to it-

Tiny humans are amazing.  I love, LOVE being a mother. That’s all I ever wanted.  I struggled to have children and with that experience, I take so much pride in being a mom.  Having said that…

There is a feeling to it that no one can prepare you for.  There is a lot of talk about staying at home and that isolation and stress. I can only imagine going to work each morning without your babies is a whole other level of stress and isolation and I’m sure there is talk about that as well. But what I am talking about it that complicated emotion of having a role no one else can do.

A mother is born

When a baby is born a mother is also born on that day too (I read that somewhere and really liked it).  That quote is so so true.  But it’s often forgotten.

Motherhood is overwhelming, right?  There are so many emotions. There is so much love and pride for the tiny humans you created but also there is this feeling…. this feeling that you are becoming static..

I’ve learned since becoming a mother that you can have all the help in the world; an amazing husband (which I have), a wonderful support system, grandparents who help out, ect. and STILL feel overwhelmed, stressed, invisible and lonely. Every second of everyday we make decisions for our children- what will they wear, eat, when will they go to bed, what medicine they need, how much screen time, what they are learning, how they are learning, so many more I can’t even type. If our children need anything, the world turns to us.  We carry such a weight on us. 

I’m feeling that weight.  It comes and goes a lot for me, as I’m sure it does for you.  But with tiny humans and few moments to ourselves that weight can crush us sometimes. It’s so easy to get lost in motherhood.

This quote says it all:

UH HUH!  Yeah we were people before we were moms.  But as a mother it’s so easy to kick it into cruise control and do all the things; the fetching snacks, nursing babies, making meals, washing and picking up laundry, vacuuming, make the decisions, make the list and just ‘mom,’ away until some day that “someone you were before…” is lost in it all.

By days end we are too tired to talk or do anything else.  Some weeks we can go days without talking about anything other than Mickey Mouse, snacks, monster trucks, nap times or how the baby is sleeping.  We forget how to be ourselves.  We forget how to talk about adult things, laugh at things that aren’t PG and remember we are moms but we are so much more.

She matters

I’m going to be honest this post started out of pure frustration.  All those feelings I wrote about above were flooding my heart.  I was/am losing myself in the journey of motherhood.  I am well aware that is it happening and I’m reflecting on how to change that.

But having wrote all that it’s lead me to this:

Sunday is Mother’s Day.  A day for us.  Let’s take that day and focus on finding that woman we were before.  Take an hour or even five minutes and think of all those wonderful things that makes you, you.  Things that don’t involve being a mother.  Yes, there are things about you that don’t involve feedings, play-do, laundry and diapers.  That amazing “someone,” is in there, even though we lose her often in this crazy ride we call motherhood.

Let her out.  Let her take the wheel for the day.  She is important. (I’ll try to do this as well).

In the comments do me a favor and tell me something, anything about yourself, something unrelated to motherhood. I can’t wait to read all the wonderful things that make up my amazing followers.

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The best place for gender neutral baby shower invites: Basic Invite Review

Waiting to find out the gender of your little one and having a hard time finding cute invitations that are gender neutral?  Look no further!

If you have been following along with my journey for any amount of time then you know that I like to do unique things like not finding out the gender of my babies (find out why here) until they were born and that I am a type A personality. I like to have everything just so. I love when things match, when I can make things just how I picture them in my head and when things are easy (because life is hard enough right?!).

So, when Basic Invite asked me review some of their products in exchange for my honest opinion I was excited.

(For more about how all that works see my disclosure statement)

They have themes ranging from classic baby shower invites to trendy events like Sprinkles.  But what I really wanted to find out was could this website make gender neutral shower/sprinkle planning… more fun?!

*Spoiler alert*

They absolutely could.

Photo by Basic Invite
Photos by Basic Invite

As unique as your little one

One of the biggest bummers of not finding out the gender of both of our babies was that when it came to planning the shower and the sprinkle (for our second) we were given maybe 5 options on any given website of “gender neutral,” invites.  By gender neutral I mean grey, blah yellow and white polka dots, with minimal options to customize. *wah wah wahhh* Just because we don’t want to find out the gender doesn’t mean we don’t want cute invites to celebrate!

This is not the case with Basic Invite.  If you’re like me and are planning to keep the sex of your baby a surprise but still want stylish invites, they have it. With so many theme options you can make any of them specific to your little ones big day even if you don’t know if they are a he or a she.

With countless adorable themes like,

You can bet you’ll find an invite that is ‘so you.‘ From there your options are almost endless to make your invitations exactly what you pictured.

I decided to go with a fun baby sprinkle invite with clouds and rain drops.

This invite was PERFECT for a gender neutral sprinkle.  We planned the sprinkle for after the baby would be born but we still didn’t know the gender so, this was an amazing option.  I really loved the style.  Had I not have liked the original so much I could have changed so much more about it. But I decided to make only a few small changes.

When I went to design my invite these were all of the areas I could chose color options for IF I wanted to.

WOW! I could customize everything to my style down to the raindrops.

Once I picked a few colors, I got to edit every line of the text.

I really liked the wording for this invitation. Since we were going to have the party after baby was here I did choose to changed some of the words to fit my needs. The website makes it so easy for you to edit.  You just click the text box and all your options appear- text style, color, size, alignment.(You can see all the changes I made to the wording in the picture above).

It was simple and so quick to do. I could even edit from my phone!

All the extras you could want

Basic Invite doesn’t just do invitations though, oh no. They make sure every aspect of your stationary is just how you would want it, while making the process easy peasy.

Here are some of the other options you have when designing your invitations:

  • Envelope color– with 40 different color options I got to choose a bright yellow that would match other items at the sprinkle.
  • Custom Samples – Basic Invite is one of the few websites that allows you to order a printed sample of your  invitation so you can see exactly what it will look like before you ever have to place your final order.  Does it get any better than that?  Even if you don’t order a printed sample the instant updates to your invitation on the website are so cool.  As soon as you edit something you get to see a live version of that change.
  • Address Capturing Service – Basic Invite offers an address capturing service that allows you to simply share a link on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or any other form of social media to request your friends and family’s addresses which will be stored in your account and can then be selected during the design process. Basic Invite offers address printing at no cost on all card orders.  For moms to be this is a game changer.  One less thing  to do before baby.  That’s a win in my book.


If you are waiting to find out the gender of your little one but still want to have beautiful stylish invitations exactly how you picture them in your head… Basic Invites is your go to.

I wish I would’ve known about them for my first baby. From being able to customize almost the whole invitation to so many cute options beyond the norm, this company is it!

Want more Basic Invite in your life?

Plus Basic Invite is offering 15% off with coupon code: 15FF51 so what are you waiting for?

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15 Things I Wish Someone Would Have Told Me When I Was Pregnant

15 things I wish someone who have told while I was pregnant

If you have ever been pregnant then you know this feeling (and if not you are very lucky).

You just found out you were pregnant or just announced that you were and you except everyone to be so happy with you but…. no.  Some people instead meet your excitement with comments like:

“You know you will never sleep again.”

“Kiss your social life good bye.”

“Your life if over.” etc.

I hope you didn’t have to hear negative comments but if you did or you are hearing them I want you to know something….

Motherhood is AMAZING!

It’s unlike anything you have ever done and there is nothing that can prepare you for the love that you will feel for this little tiny human that YOU made.

I have never understood why people feel the need to rain on new parent’s parades.  Parenthood has been so much more than I could have ever fathomed.  You are constantly learning.  Whether you are learning things about yourself, your partner or your child it’s a learning experience.  Everyday is something new you have never experienced before!

Of Course It Is Hard

Parenthood, like anything else is life is hard.  Of course there are things about it that can suck from time to time.  But let’s be honest if you have ever been around a child you knew going into this parent thing, it wasn’t always going to be sunshine and rainbows.

You don’t need to hear how much lack of sleep can suck, you need to hear that baby cuddles at 2 am make up for the lack of sleep.  You don’t need to hear “your social life is over.”  You need to hear that taking your little to new places is so amazingly fun.  There are so many negative things I could sit here and type for you.  Details of those days that have been so so hard as a new mom.  But has a new mom you need SUPPORT.  You need ENCOURAGEMENT.  You need to know YOU ARE GOING TO BE AMAZING!


If you are a new mom or mom to be know this, it. is. amazing. This is the best adventure you will ever go on.  You will never be the same again. Once you see that little human staring back at you, you will know how amazing it is.  Everything you do now you will do with your baby in mind.  You will WANT to put them first (most of the time).  You will want the best for them and you will be fight tooth and nail to make sure they get it.  You might not get 8 hours of sleep, or have freshly washed hair everyday or be able to run out whenever you want but know this, it’s worth everything you are sacrificing.

And if you are already a mom, be kind!  Remember your own excitement when you were pregnant for the first time.  Tell those new moms you run into about all the joy they will feel, all the love and pure excitement that comes from being a parent.

And if you can’t….. then don’t say anything at all.  Don’t steal their joy.


What would you like new moms to know that no one told you about when you were pregnant?


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