When we decided that we wanted our first two babies close together, I set out to see what others thought about two under two. I frantically googled, pinned and asked around trying to see the pros and cons of two under two. The results? People were split. They either loved it or hated it.
Let me tell you this week has been hard. I have cried so. much. But I’ve also had some of those mom moments- you know the ones where your heart explodes with love over something your kids did. I can see both sides of the argument.
So, if you are reading this post to find out what 2 under 2 is like here it is. Here is what two under two is like for me (and maybe for you too).
Two under Two is-
Messy. Oh, so messy.
It’s two in diapers.
Double the laundry covered in anything and everything.
And confusing clothes while folding laundry because at four months and 22 months they start to all look the same.
It’s two babies who can’t talk yet.
And double the tears (triple if you count yours).
A ton of mom guilt. Learning to balance a newborn and toddler who needs attention too.
Sleepless nights with a newborn learning how to sleep and a toddler learning to stay in his big boy bed.
And a full bed each morning, having a tiny human on each side of you.
Hearing “Hi mama!” from the oldest, as you nurse your second born in the morning light.
It is learning to nurse while doing all the things.
Lots of days it’s wondering if the fog will clear. If you will feel human again.
But then watching your youngest laugh at your oldest
And your oldest helping you do things for the younger you didn’t even know they could do!
It’s new words everyday from the older one and babbles from the little one.
It’s spending most of the day on floor. While protecting the little one from being stepped on and teaching the big one how to be gentle.
And boo boos. So. many boo boos. Bumped heads and hair being pulled.
And teething!!! Oh gosh double the teeth, drool and pain.
It’s your oldest not remembering life before the little one and trying to remember it yourself.
Teaching sharing 24/7. What is yours, his, and ours. It’s “that used to be yours and now it’s his.”
It’s longing for 30 seconds of quiet. 30 seconds of not being touched because you’re constantly needed for feedings, cuddles and hugs- it’s all you all the time.
All while wishing you had one more hour in the day because some how the hours drag but they are both growing up so fast.
It’s wanting for the little one to be able to crawl or walk so life will be easier and then crying because you want them to stay small forever.
It’s laughing so hard that first week at yourself trying to hold two babies at the same time and failing.
It’s feeling like a bad ass that first time you’re alone with both kids and everyone survived the day.
It’s holding back happy tears the first time your first baby holds your second baby.
It’s never having enough hands to get things done but enough hands to hold each baby’s while they cry in the car.
It’s one baby for you, one baby for me. Man to man defense all day, everyday. You change this one, while I feed this one.
Missing the one you aren’t holding at that time.
Being so tired that their names somehow are becoming, “the big one and the small one.”
It’s hearing ” I don’t know how you do it.” and always responding “yeah, me either.” While chugging your millionth cup of coffee.
It’s learning grace as a mother. Asking and accepting help.
It’s smiling when you hear your oldest who can barely talk say the little ones name (well kinda).
It’s holding on through the ebb and flows. The stretch of wonderful days and the weeks of grayness. And knowing that each morning you wake up could start or end the phase you are in.
It’s having two babies in two years and still remembering how to do all the baby things because you just did it the year before.
It’s being so glad you did this because they are already so close.
And that knowing that no matter how damn hard it is right now, seeing these two make a friend for a lifetime, who will be going through all the phases with them is oh so worth it!
If you’re surviving in the two under two club, let me know below what it’s like for you each day.